The Secret to Attracting Everything You Want
How to become a magnet to good people and opportunities
“The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.”
— W.H. Murray
Why do some people seem to attract good things effortlessly, while others chase and chase only to receive nothing?
It seems the desperate repel what they want the most.
The stingy person struggles to build wealth.
The selfish person struggles to find people to help them.
The one who needs a relationship struggles to find a good one.
But then there are those people who seem to have a magnetic attraction to them.
A force that compels people to help them, and causes the universe to conspire in their favour.
It’s rarely desperation that gives you what you want. It’s something quieter.
And this magnetic attraction is a skill that can be trained.
The story of Sudama and Krishna
A hindu story slightly adapted
Many came to Krishna (the king) bringing fine gifts.
Dhanraj brought gems and jewellery, asking for land.
Yatin brought silk and fine garments, hoping for a title in Krishna's court.
Krishna felt the insincerity of their smiles and declined their gifts.
Then came Sudama.
A poor Brahmin who was a childhood friend of the king, bringing only a handful of flattened rice, asking for nothing in return.
He was embarrassed to bring rice, but Krishna felt the purity of the gift and treated him like royalty.
And when Sudama returned home, his hut had become a palace.
You don't get what you want, you get what you deserve
“Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value.”
— Albert Einstein
It's not a mystery or magic.
And it's not unfair.
This magnetic attraction is logical. It's the fairest principle of life.
It’s not your appearance, the price of the jacket you have, or how much you suck up to the boss that creates this force.
It's purely about sincerity and positivity.
When you're authentic to who you are, your actions are good, and your heart is pure, you will receive all the gifts you've ever wanted.
Not because you want them, but because you deserve them.
A woman is not interested in a man simply because he wants her to be. This makes no sense. She wants a man who loves himself, respects himself and brings a positive worldview. She doesn't want someone who wants to be wanted — someone who needs to be wanted. She wants someone because she is pulled toward them, as if they are a magnet. Because they are of high value to themselves and the world. This is obvious.
A boss would not give the best projects and opportunities to the person who begs him for work — why would they? Again, it makes no sense. They would save the best opportunities to the staff who has shown kindness, thoughtfulness, willingness, efficiency and the skill to execute the task. They get the project because they are the best candidate.
And what about a coffee shop that blames society or the government for no customers, when their coffee is terrible? Should people go and drink their coffee simply because they have a shop? Of course not!
Wanting it without deserving it is like trying to telepathically bring a piece of steel toward you.
You can want it more than anything in the world, but why would it come to you?
You need something that attracts it to you.
You need a magnetic force.
How to become a magnet for blessings in life
You don’t attract good things by chasing. You attract them by becoming someone worth chasing.
Become a magnet.
Respect your time. Have confidence in who you are. Walk the walk. Enjoy your own company. Do things you love.
And soon, the things you used to chase will begin to chase you.
The most important part of becoming magnetic is how you treat yourself.
How you treat yourself is the blueprint for how others treat you.
If you don't exercise, eat well and take care of yourself, how can you expect someone else to take care of you? Why should they?
If you are not organised, disciplined and efficient, how can you expect someone to come to you with a project they need help with? Why would they?
If you are not kind to yourself and confident in who you are, how can you expect someone else to be attracted to you? To have confidence in you?
Why would the world give you things you're not ready for?
Should a basketball player be put on an NBA team just because he wants to, or should he make the team because he has proven he can play at that level?
If you are not honest, sincere, kind, structured, disciplined and confident, life will just hand you things. You’ll be shocked.
That's the secret. That's the truth.
Focus on the outside, you lose control. When you blame someone for not liking you, you lose. When you blame your boss for not giving you something, you lose.
Life will give you absolutely nothing if you sit around blaming others for not helping you.
Focus on the inside, and the outside will take care of itself. That’s how you win.
Focus on your dribbling, your shooting, your passing and your mindset and the game will play itself.
Before blaming the world for not helping you, ask yourself: Have you truly helped yourself? Have you done everything you can to treat yourself the way you'd like to be treated? Do you truly and deeply believe you are a high-value individual?
Would you choose you?
If yes, remain on this path — you will attract everything you've ever wanted.
If not, congratulations! You've admitted something to yourself that only a small minority of people in history have ever done. Now it's time to change that internally. Then, and only then, will you attract everything you've ever wanted.
When you begin to prioritise being true to yourself, loving yourself and enjoying your own company, the world realises it can't control you, and instead decides to appreciate you.
When it feels how much you value yourself, it won't be able to contain itself.
The world treats you how you treat yourself.
Sincerely,
eren
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Beautiful piece. It is difficult to attract what you are not ready for and to become a person of influence, your must be a man of value.
Great post Eren, something I’ve been working a lot on over the last year is becoming the best version of myself I can be. Then I can attract what I want because I become a magnet.