What is perfection really? It's just one point of view. I told my husband he was a perfectionist. He suffered so much because nothing was perfect. He wanted everything to be the way he wanted it. His idea of perfection. For example, no barking dogs, no loud talking people, no smoking near him, and on and on. We will never have "perfection." Why not just accept what is and don't let it bother you.? Easier said than done. Great post, Eren.
You're 100% right Lauren. The sound of kids could be perfect to one person, and horrible to another. Your husband is lucky to have you bringing that perspective :)
Most definitely easier said than done, but still worth trying!
Thank you Lauren. Thanks for your consistent support.
As a former perfectionist, I resonate with your words. Perfectionism, for me, was a facade to shield my true self from rejection and criticism. Interestingly, when I began to embrace the uniqueness and imperfections in others, it became easier to embrace my own. I now view my not so great traits—like my horrible navigation skills, clumsiness, and forgetfulness in answering messages —as something funny that is currently part of me. I work on it, but I accept it at the same time.
I resonate with that. We don’t want to be criticised so we focus so much on getting it perfect. I personally always want to impress people. I’m not ok with being just…ok. So thank you for that perspective.
And I just want to say, I have those exact same traits as you! I accepted my navigation sucks and started studying maps of my city and paying attention to my bearings and it’s actually been quite fun to improve.
Thanks for always engaging with your thoughtful comments Danique. Really appreciate it.
What is perfection really? It's just one point of view. I told my husband he was a perfectionist. He suffered so much because nothing was perfect. He wanted everything to be the way he wanted it. His idea of perfection. For example, no barking dogs, no loud talking people, no smoking near him, and on and on. We will never have "perfection." Why not just accept what is and don't let it bother you.? Easier said than done. Great post, Eren.
You're 100% right Lauren. The sound of kids could be perfect to one person, and horrible to another. Your husband is lucky to have you bringing that perspective :)
Most definitely easier said than done, but still worth trying!
Thank you Lauren. Thanks for your consistent support.
As a former perfectionist, I resonate with your words. Perfectionism, for me, was a facade to shield my true self from rejection and criticism. Interestingly, when I began to embrace the uniqueness and imperfections in others, it became easier to embrace my own. I now view my not so great traits—like my horrible navigation skills, clumsiness, and forgetfulness in answering messages —as something funny that is currently part of me. I work on it, but I accept it at the same time.
I resonate with that. We don’t want to be criticised so we focus so much on getting it perfect. I personally always want to impress people. I’m not ok with being just…ok. So thank you for that perspective.
And I just want to say, I have those exact same traits as you! I accepted my navigation sucks and started studying maps of my city and paying attention to my bearings and it’s actually been quite fun to improve.
Thanks for always engaging with your thoughtful comments Danique. Really appreciate it.
Haha that's really funny. Maybe it's the writer's package deal of negative traits.
A much needed reminder and a very good read, thanks Eren!
I'm glad it resonated with you bro. Thanks so much for the kind words and for reading.