Tip #1 of separating yourself from the problem is quite powerful because you are also separating yourself from the emotions triggered by the problem.
An analogy that comes to mind is that you can't see the top of the mountain if you are surrounded by a fog that is emotions, but if you were to look at the mountain from a kilometer afar, you could clearly see the mountain and the fog surrounding it.
Writing the problem down and thinking about it rationally has never disappointed me.
That's an excellent analogy. I'll have to steal it.
You're right - I think of my basketball games where I'm frustrated. My strategy is to stare at my shoes and count to 10. It generally takes me out of the problem and the fog is cleared.
I really enjoyed reading this post! I learnt (long time ago) that we have to be independent in a way and help ourselves in order to help others. There's no point of helping others when we haven't succeeded in helping purselves first. Sometimes, we can help ourselves by helping others but that does not mean that we can chose to not work on ourselves. Great piece!
yes - I agree. Being self-sufficient is the best way to help others, but also to take pressure off them and make us more pleasant people for them to be around. thanks Ayesha!
Tip #1 of separating yourself from the problem is quite powerful because you are also separating yourself from the emotions triggered by the problem.
An analogy that comes to mind is that you can't see the top of the mountain if you are surrounded by a fog that is emotions, but if you were to look at the mountain from a kilometer afar, you could clearly see the mountain and the fog surrounding it.
Writing the problem down and thinking about it rationally has never disappointed me.
That's an excellent analogy. I'll have to steal it.
You're right - I think of my basketball games where I'm frustrated. My strategy is to stare at my shoes and count to 10. It generally takes me out of the problem and the fog is cleared.
Thanks for reading and commenting Nihad.
Thanks for writing it :)
Eren, thank you for this text. As I wrote a very similar article myself, the concept of 'helping yourself' resonates with me a lot.
Thank you for reading Tomas - much appreciated bro!
I really enjoyed reading this post! I learnt (long time ago) that we have to be independent in a way and help ourselves in order to help others. There's no point of helping others when we haven't succeeded in helping purselves first. Sometimes, we can help ourselves by helping others but that does not mean that we can chose to not work on ourselves. Great piece!
yes - I agree. Being self-sufficient is the best way to help others, but also to take pressure off them and make us more pleasant people for them to be around. thanks Ayesha!
Yes. You're welcome!
same happens to me! our loved ones can be a great sounding board for our own ideas - you can express questions with no judgement.
I feel like the answer sits dormant until we connect the dots by speaking, or posing the question in a certain way.
Thanks again man! Always great to hear from you